I have a baby that doesn’t sleep. No matter what I’ve tried, no matter what I do, I just can’t get her to be a good sleeper. I’ve read sleep article after sleep article, to no avail. “Give her rice cereal, she’s probably hungry”, my mom said over and over. I brushed it off because nowadays there’s some mixed research on whether or not it’s the best option (and hello I’ve done all my reading so I obviously know everything). The no sleep saga continues. We finally got to the point that we thought “maybe there is some medical issue that is hindering Ruthie’s sleep”. Off we go to the doctor to ensure a clean bill of health. And would you guess what the doctor ordered? Rice. Cereal. (Insert eye roll about how I had to call my mom and tell her she was right all along). Oh how I wish I had just listened to my mother. Fast forward a couple of weeks — it hasn’t helped, but I have learned a lesson. There’s a reason God gave us moms, and they have some sage advice. Maybe we should listen to our mamas a little bit more. So I did some research, and here’s advice from some mamas who I know and trust. Some of it is serious, some comical, some spiritual. Do with it what you will…or don’t.
#1: “When they fall at the park, DO NOT make eye contact! If there is no audience to the fall, they will usually just get right back up. But if they know you saw it the tears will start. And the wailing. And the “Pick me up and carry me because now I have a boo boo”. Just look away, Mama. Look. Away.”
#2: “Put your phone down! They will not stay little for long. Pay attention to them and talk to them. And lock the bathroom door!”
#3: “Give yourself grace! It’s a season.”
#4: “Take the real small play doh container, like you put in party treat bags, to restaurants with you. After they eat, let them make peas, worms, whatever while parents enjoy eating. Be sure to clean it all up for waiters.”
#5: “Your mom is a very valuable tool. Next to your doctor, your greatest source of information. She knows you AND your baby. Your own instincts and her experience make a great team. When in doubt, pick up the phone and call mom!”
#6: “My toddler poured my coffee in the fish tank last week while I was feeding the dog. Enjoy the baby stage.”
#7: “Don’t compare yourself with other moms that look like they have it all together. They are just better at faking it than you are.”
#8: “When they’re older, remind them that you love them so much that when they were little you caught their vomit in your hands. Bonus points if you do it in front of their friends.”
#9: “Enjoy every moment with them and don’t feel like you have to be super mom, super wife or have a perfect house.”
#10: “You will mess up! It will be okay and they won’t remember. Just don’t make it a habit.”
#11: “Simply laugh.”
Man oh man, how all of these words ring true. I am going to strive to live like these mamas (who know far more than I) suggest. I hope you will, too!
What is the best mama advice you’ve received?